How to keep her interested

29th Jan 2010

So you’ve finally man­aged to pull that girl you’ve been secretly pin­ing for since the first time you ever clapped eyes on her in Gate­crasher (or Vod­bull, respec­tively) but what hap­pens next? Do you man­age to at least kiss those lovely cherry VK flavoured lips again and pos­si­bly take them on a date or will you fall at the first hur­dle? As funny as it sounds, we crea­tures of the fem­i­nine species are not as com­plex as we like to make out. There are just a few rules you should fol­low and here’s how…

First and fore­most, nobody likes a keeno. When you’re chat­ting to her, do not kill her with com­pli­ments. If they’re insin­cere you’ll look like a bit of a sleaze and she’ll just feel embar­rassed. If you lis­ten to what she says and seem gen­uinely inter­ested then she’ll be intrigued and want to know more about you. You both win. Be con­fi­dent, keep the ban­ter going and don’t be too seri­ous – when you’re mak­ing her laugh you know you’re on the right track. Buy­ing her a drink won’t hurt either; it’s not essen­tial as she knows you’re a poor stu­dent but it makes you look gen­er­ous and like you care that she’s happy and well-watered.

Once you have suf­fi­ciently chat­ted her up and man­aged to get her num­ber, walk away. Being elu­sive will ensure she’s won­der­ing all night (or until she reaches Rooster House at least), where you popped off to. It’s bad if you text her that night but it’s even worse if you com­mit the sin of tex­ting her the next morn­ing. She’s prob­a­bly quite hun­gover and cring­ing at the thought of snog­ging your face off in the mid­dle of the dance floor. Instead, wait a cou­ple of days; she’ll be flat­tered you’re still think­ing of her but you won’t come across like too much of an eager beaver.

Another impor­tant issue is tex­ting inter­vals. As triv­ial as it sounds, reply­ing straight away will make you look like you have noth­ing bet­ter to do. Wait­ing a bit longer means that it will prob­a­bly cross her mind that you won’t reply and she’ll be more excited when you do. Vari­a­tion is key. Along the lines of other sound-trivial-but-definitely-are-not issues is Face­book. If you’re clearly pos­ing in your pro­file pic­ture, remove it. Now. She’s after a guy that’s funny and mys­te­ri­ous, not one that spends his days pho­tograph­ing him­self pos­ing in front of the mir­ror (you know ‘that’ sort of myspace pose I’m refer­ring to).

Finally when you ask her to meet up always pro­pose a cer­tain date. Lines such as ‘I’m pretty free next week’ make you sound like you’re either des­per­ate to see her or you don’t have much going on in your life.

The one thing to remem­ber is the most clichéd but accu­rate rule out there – ‘treat ‘em mean keep ‘em keen’ – but not too mean. The aim is to make her feel spe­cial with­out being too clingy. Once you’ve mas­tered that bal­ance she’ll want you even more than you want Cheryl Cole.